so question is where does the magic go to? What happens after the decorations come down and its just the two of you remaining... in my short life i have attended wedding of amazing couples.. love birds... matches that seemed to be divinely decided, from the beginning of time... but i have also watched the same couples crumble... talk ill of each other to every ear willing to listen.. so much that at some point, i really considered staying single all my life.. buy me a great house and a big dog and forget about men....
But no worries that ain't gonna happen... i want a full life of chasing my kids in the house and waiting on my hubby and loving him with all i am..I digress... sorry as i was saying... what happens to the love?
I thought marriage was just cursed... that if you got married young, your marriage was doomed to fail... but with time i have come to realize that its not that the couple was not meant to be... its that they were not willing to fight for it... I have spoken to some of my married friends and attended a couple of very informative bridal showers (that doesn't make me an expert but anyhu ...) and I have drawn one common conclusion... Married life is not a bed of roses...(go figure huh?) but wait, it is...its just that roses do have thorns, and i guess those are what no one warns us about...You meet an amazing man/woman. You love them through everything...the unreplied texts, the flirting with your friends, the occasional outburst , the crazy outfit, the bad hair day, the crazy mother, the jealous Ex, the annoying habit .... you love them despite all this because to you, she/he is worth it.. fast forward a few years, the ring comes the amazing wedding follows... then what? you declare "job done?"... exit prince charming and enter Mr. bossy... all of a sudden, you can't stand that he din't reply your text... you don't like how she does her hair... suddenly you think she should loose weight or he should start playing an instrument... you forget to continue loving despite the faults.. Am not saying that you shouldn't improve each other or agree to be improved.... am saying it shouldn't matter... you loved her as she was....you loved her laugh, her character, and decided that she was the one... you tolerated his habits, cleaned after him all the time and you did accept the ring...well then you better be ready to stick by him...
Yes there are so many buts and ifs.... think about it... if every couple got married for the right reasons and each of them vows to fight for their love.... then this marriage craziness would end.. (or at least reduce drastically...)
Warren Barfield sings..Love is not a fight.. but is something worth fighting for..but how many would go against their family, jobs because they trust their spouse has their best interest at heart? If you not ready to fight for him... don't accept his ring... save yourselves some trouble, and money and of course time and end it before its too late...#tough love...
But i must say cheers to all the successful couples Rock on!!! You are proof that marriage can work..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwK73QbNPKo
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